Episode 33 - More Than Friends

How can you tell when someone likes you as more than just a friend? Well, you could just ask them outright, but that could be kind of awkward wouldn’t it, especially if the answer is ‘no’. So I’m going to share a few ways to figure out if your friend has feelings for you.

Now there’s no guarantee to this, some people are REALLY good at masking their emotions, but sometimes even they can give away little telltale signs of what’s going on beneath the surface. Which brings me to the first technique: observe body language. Does your friend often come into your personal space, standing or sitting a bit closer to you than normal? Or perhaps they often find a way to brush against you or touch your hand. Does she/he look you dead in the face for every conversation you have, no matter how trivial? And since they’re looking, see if you can spot whether their pupils are dilated, because it’s a scientific fact that when you look at someone you are attracted to, your pupils dilate. Now be careful when leaning in to check, they may think you’re going for a kiss!

Pay attention to behaviour. Observe how your friend acts when around you, are they awkward or nervous? Maybe even have a slight stutter? How about slightly shaky hands or sweaty palms? If so, they’ve definitely gotten a prick from Cupid’s bow. Especially if all of a sudden they’re taking care to dress nicer than usual, or wearing perfume, cologne or make-up when meeting up with you. Always trying to show their best side...yup, your friend wants to be more than just a buddy.

Listen to what they say, and don’t say. Is your friend complimenting you more than usual? Or giving you slightly flirtatious lines? Do they get quiet when you talk about someone you’re dating or have a crush on, avoiding the topic altogether? Or perhaps they’ll steer the conversation to ask you what your preferences are in a mate, casually noting that you both have a lot in common in that area. Hmmm.....

What makes this a bit challenging is that this person is your friend, so you’re already kind of in a relationship with them, platonic as it may be, and it may be easy to confuse or misinterpret certain actions or words as being friendlier than the norm, so you really have to use your own judgement on this. Now if you do get confirmation that your friend does indeed have designs on your heart, well the next step is up to you, and that’s a whole other topic!


Love,
Geena

More Than Friends
(download mix here)

9th Wonder - Fall In Love
Ndelible - Hello Friend
Amy Winehouse - Just Friends
Eric Roberson - If I Had A Chance
Estelle - More Than Friends
Joe - Why Just Be Friends
Musiq Soulchild - Just Friends (Sunny)
Beverlei Brown - Best Friends
Ledisi - Best Friend
Algebra - I Think I Love U
Darien Brockington - Lover & Friend (interlude)
Janet Jackson - Love & My Best Friend
Michael Sterling - Lovers & Friends
Eddie Kendricks - Intimate Friends
One Way - More Than Friends, Less Than Lovers
Patti Labelle - You Are My Friend
Minnie Riperton - Lover & Friend


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Geena Lee
Lovesoul Studio
Toronto, Canada